Recovering Me: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

1. Introduction Stone vs. Glass is the fundamental architecture I used to rebuild my life after trauma. For years, I believed that my "softness" was a liability that needed to be hidden, or a weakness that made me easy to shatter. I’ve realized that I am not the person I was when they knew me; I am softer now, but my walls are made of better stone. I don't let just anyone in anymore—not because I’m cold, but because I finally know what’s inside is worth protecting.  In this framework, I will show you how to trade reactive glass for sovereign stone to reclaim your life.  Building a protective perimeter to safeguard your authentic softness. 2. The Fragility of Living Unprotected You likely feel over-exposed, as if your internal boundaries are made of thin glass that shatters at the first sign of conflict. This results in the "fawn" response—an automatic reflex to appease others just to keep your own glass from breaking. You spend your days scanning for mood shift...

 I Still Catch Myself Asking "Are You Sure?" I struggled with the haunting echo of a question that wouldn’t leave, even when the person who planted it was long gone. Narcissistic gaslighting is not merely a collection of lies; it is a systematic dismantling of your ability to trust your own senses, leaving you in a state of perpetual self-interrogation. I used to believe that physical distance would automatically bring mental clarity. Instead, I found myself asking "Are you sure?" to an empty room, seeking permission from a ghost to believe my own eyes.  This post promises to move you from the paralyzing fog of doubt into the art of being your own witness. By the end of this guide, you will have the practical tools to stop "outsourcing" your reality and reclaim a narrative that belongs solely to you. Finding clarity and nervous system support after narcissistic abuse. Recovering Me: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse https://recoveringmeproject.blogspot.com...

Introduction: The Narrative Hostage I was exactly the same, sitting in the silence of a cold room, mentally drafting the most perfect, logical argument that would finally force a narcissist to say "I'm sorry." I believed that the apology I’ll never get was the missing bridge back to my own sanity. I thought that if they just acknowledged the gaslighting , the cognitive dissonance would finally snap, and I could be whole again. However, I spent years mailing letters to an empty house—an empty vessel—only to realize that my healing was being held hostage by a person who didn't even recognize my humanity. The promise of this guide is to help you transition from survival mode to self-sovereignty . We are going to deconstruct why the narcissist uses silence as a weapon and how you can turn that silence into your greatest strength. By the end of this, you will have the clarity needed to stop seeking permission to heal. Therefore, you will finally close the book on their ...