Recovering Me: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

1. The Moment the Mask Cracked Emotional sobriety became my reality the second I stopped using "I’m fine" as a shield. For years, those two words were my most reliable survival tactic. They functioned as a social barrier—a quick way to stop the questioning before it could get too close to the truth. I used to believe that if I could just look the part of a functioning, recovered adult, the internal chaos wouldn't matter. I thought that by performing wellness, I would eventually catch up to it. However, I eventually realized that performing wellness is not the same as experiencing it. The moment I realized that being "fine" was actually keeping me from being whole was the day I finally understood true emotional sobriety . It wasn't about having a perfect life; it was about having an honest one. By reading this guide, you will gain a specific strategy to trade the exhaustion of masking for the sustainable peace of being whole. Emotional sobriety  guide hero ...

1. Introduction Stone vs. Glass is the fundamental architecture I used to rebuild my life after trauma. For years, I believed that my "softness" was a liability that needed to be hidden, or a weakness that made me easy to shatter. I’ve realized that I am not the person I was when they knew me; I am softer now, but my walls are made of better stone. I don't let just anyone in anymore—not because I’m cold, but because I finally know what’s inside is worth protecting.  In this framework, I will show you how to trade reactive glass for sovereign stone to reclaim your life.  Building a protective perimeter to safeguard your authentic softness. 2. The Fragility of Living Unprotected You likely feel over-exposed, as if your internal boundaries are made of thin glass that shatters at the first sign of conflict. This results in the "fawn" response—an automatic reflex to appease others just to keep your own glass from breaking. You spend your days scanning for mood shift...

 I Still Catch Myself Asking "Are You Sure?" I struggled with the haunting echo of a question that wouldn’t leave, even when the person who planted it was long gone. Narcissistic gaslighting is not merely a collection of lies; it is a systematic dismantling of your ability to trust your own senses, leaving you in a state of perpetual self-interrogation. I used to believe that physical distance would automatically bring mental clarity. Instead, I found myself asking "Are you sure?" to an empty room, seeking permission from a ghost to believe my own eyes.  This post promises to move you from the paralyzing fog of doubt into the art of being your own witness. By the end of this guide, you will have the practical tools to stop "outsourcing" your reality and reclaim a narrative that belongs solely to you. Finding clarity and nervous system support after narcissistic abuse. Recovering Me: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse https://recoveringmeproject.blogspot.com...