Recovering Me: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

  The Heart of The Soojz Project The Soojz Project was created to bridge the gap between "knowing" you are safe and actually "feeling" safe. For many of us, our value was long tied to how much pressure we could absorb and how well we could brace for the next impact. When that impact finally stops, the nervous system doesn't always know how to transition into peace. This project supports your transition into the quiet through three pillars: Sound: My album, Heavy Bamboo Rain , uses the Daegeum tuned to 528Hz . It provides a gentle "frequency bridge" so your nervous system can descend into calm without feeling like it’s falling into a void. Insight: Through Recovering Me , we deconstruct the biological reasons why your body is "missing" the fight. Action: My coloring affirmations book, Speak Love to Yourself , gives your hands a task. It allows you to inhabit the calm while keeping the "survival brain" occupied with beauty. If pea...

  The Heart of The Soojz Project The Soojz Project was created to bridge the gap between "knowing" you are safe and actually "feeling" safe. For many of us, our value was long tied to how much pressure we could absorb and how well we could brace for the next impact. When that impact finally stops, the nervous system doesn't always know how to transition into peace. This project is how I rebuilt. It’s a bridge between the trauma I survived and the peace I now protect. Sound: My album, Heavy Bamboo Rain , was born from this transition. The Daegeum (Korean bamboo flute) represents the hollowed-out space that trauma leaves behind, which we then fill with beautiful, 528Hz resonance . Insight: Through Recovering Me , I share the psychological shifts that happen when you stop being a "resource" and start being a human being. Action: My coloring book, Speak Love to Yourself , is a tactile anchor for the new version of you that is still learning how to tak...

  The Heart of The Soojz Project I started The Soojz Project because I realized that the " explain-aholic " tendencies we develop during abuse are actually a survival mechanism. We spent years trying to bridge the gap between our reality and a narcissist's lies. We thought if we could just find the "right words," we would finally be understood—and therefore, safe. This project supports your transition to quiet confidence through three pillars: Sound: My album, Heavy Bamboo Rain , uses the 528Hz frequency to ground your nervous system. When you are regulated, you don't feel the "spike" of panic that usually triggers the need to over-explain. Insight: Articles like this one on Recovering Me , where we deconstruct the exhausting labor of " reputation management ." Action: My coloring affirmations book, Speak Love to Yourself , which reinforces the internal truth: your worth is not up for debate. Let them be wrong about you. 🕊️🌿 Your p...

  The Heart of The Soojz Project I started The Soojz Project because I noticed a recurring pattern in recovery: the deep, almost desperate need for silence. After years of noise, walking on eggshells, and managing someone else's volatile emotions, the most luxurious thing in the world isn't a vacation—it's an empty room. This project honors your need for sanctuary through three pillars: Sound: My album, Heavy Bamboo Rain , provides a 528Hz sonic landscape that fills the silence without demanding anything from you. It is "company" that doesn't require a reaction. Insight: Articles like this one on Recovering Me , where we validate your need to withdraw as a healthy evolutionary step. Action: My coloring affirmations book, Speak Love to Yourself , which gives you a meditative way to be "alone" with your thoughts while rewriting the internal script of self-worth. Solitude isn't an absence of people; it’s a presence of self. 🕊️🌿 If you crave th...

  The Heart of The Soojz Project I started The Soojz Project because I realized that for many of us, "self-care" felt like a crime. After surviving an environment where your only value was your utility to someone else, the act of choosing your own peace feels like a betrayal. This project supports your transition from self-abandonment to self-sovereignty through three pillars: Sound: My album, Heavy Bamboo Rain , features the Daegeum (Korean bamboo flute) at 528Hz . This frequency is designed to settle the "guilt-alarm" in your nervous system so you can breathe without permission. Insight: The articles here on Recovering Me , where we deconstruct the "why" behind the heavy emotions that keep you stuck. Action: My coloring affirmations book, Speak Love to Yourself , which gives you a tactile, guilt-free way to spend time on yourself while reinforcing a new internal narrative. Guilt is just a survival alarm misfiring. 🕊️🌿 Today, choose the quiet. Choo...